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Imperfect forgiveness

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Every year on Palm Sunday, the roles for the Passion reading are parceled out. One person reads the part of Jesus, another Peter, and another the high priest. Together we tell the story of the last days of Jesus’ life. Those of us who don’t have a particular part, who stay in our pews, play the crowd, the hoi polloi.  It is not a flattering role. We are the ignorant, the vengeful, the colluders, the people who willfully reject Jesus.

There comes the moment when Pontius Pilate, the man in charge, says to us:  “Which prisoner do you want me to set free?” And we cry, “Barrabas!” Free Barabbas , the murderer! Then Pilate asks us: “Then what should I do with this man Jesus?” And we say, “Crucify him!”

Delivering that line is a hard thing to do. I know some people who just can’t say it. But most of us do our best to call forth the gusto that’s needed to make this line visceral, to shout this terrible, terrible mistake.  Because it’s real and it has to be said.  Because it is necessary and helpful to put ourselves in this role. To recognize that there are times when we are ignorant, vengeful, or colluding…times when we willfully reject Jesus.

It’s like an annual confession of the worst in us, and it is exhilarating and pathetic at the same time. Continue reading


Answering the call

Jonah 3: 1-5, 10 and Mark 1: 14-20

I had an unusually full week last week. I’m sure it wasn’t busier than your week, but all of a sudden, on top of the usual stuff of work and familial responsibilities, I had a slew of deadlines, and I’d started a course and the work was way more than I expected. And a big town event that I’d been helping plan for months was about to take place. And on top of that there were some fun, social things that I had foolishly agreed to months ago, but now they seemed like a burden and a waste of time. Why did I say I would go to the Symphony?

You know those times when you’re going full tilt, and you just can’t accommodate people–you can’t do what they ask you to do, whether it’s pleasurable or serious. Everyday I had to say no to somebody: no, I couldn’t go to the movies, no, I couldn’t go for a walk, no, I couldn’t write a reference–how about next week?, no, I couldn’t attend the meeting that all committee chairs are required to go to.

There were phone calls that I didn’t answer and messages on my answering machine that I didn’t get back to.

Which is why, when I read the story of Jonah, the man who famously got a call from God and said no, I thought: I don’t blame you, Jonah. Sometimes you just can’t do it all. Continue reading


Forgive and forget

What gets into people? I ask you.

Did you hear about the woman who started a lawsuit over a movie trailer?  She went to see the movie “Drive,” (starring the fabulous Ryan Gosling) and it didn’t have as many car chases as she expected from seeing the trailer.  So she’s suing both the movie theater and the distributor.  She wants someone to blame, maybe somebody to be angry at for her disappointing movie experience.

Last week, a guy set a Taco Bell on fire because there wasn’t enough meat on his extra large chalupas.

And poor Bill Bruckner.  He’s still getting grief for letting a ground ball go through his legs 25 years ago, when he played for the Red Sox in the ’86 World Series.  He was a very good ball player, but nobody’s ever going to forget that one play where he botched up.

And I, I am still holding a grudge against a woman I volunteer with because six months ago, she didn’t send out an email on time.  Every time I see her at our monthly meetings, I feel like she’s going to let me down again.

Can’t we just forgive and forget?  Evidently not.

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